It’s taken me six days to remember how to breathe; and I’m still trying to master sleep.
At this point I will issue a product warning: this is the season of Lent, a time when I reviewed all the things that I might give up; chocolate is a favorite, ice cream (that’s a biggie), when I was younger; sex (solo and shared). This has ben a year of changes and reflections; this year I was going to take more on: more prayer (10% of my day, 2.5 hours), teaching Sunday School…giving, not taking on. So I prayed on it, right?
Answered prayer is a bitch.
I am with the octogenarians, parents to my wife, the SWMBO. I asked to do this(?). Mom has been diagnosed with a cancer; it has metastasized to her spine…limiting her movement in shoulders, arms and hands and has brought on pain, pain of a level she had not known before.
Now let’s us introduce pain meds, fun for a day or two and then the hallucinations, the falling and an unpleasant disposition.
We’ll add in a heavy dose of denial, “mini-strokes” and the onset of dementia.
Do, do be sure you ask for what you want in prayer.
Communication is a challenge; Drs. don’t recognize my status, they talk to Mom, I remind her of the conversations and I’m a liar, Dad’s in the room, physically. “Dad, do you understand what we are going to be doing?”
“What’s on tonight? Tues is NCIS?”
“Mom, we have to be at the Interventional Radiologist’s office in half an hour, have you got everything?”
“I don’t want to go, I don’t need to go, I’m strong.”
“If you walk away from this fight without the weapons they’ll give you…you’ll be weaker in spirit and body and you will lose. And you may very well die. It will kill you.”
“Give me your hand and we’ll go get you signed in”
“I hate you. No one is going to run my life. Don’t treat me like a child.”
“I know…you can call your insurance company and see if they will cover a care giver you like…after we get you signed in”
Did you know that there are things YOU can do to help a cancer patient, their family and care givers endure the time before, during ad after treatments.
Every treatment center waiting room has a book exchange with very limited numbers of old, for the most part tasteless, paperbacks.
You’re writers, artists and readers; collectors, gather books; stand up at your Starbucks and ask. For those that are truly bold, volunteer yourself for twenty minutes a month and make sure that the two shelves on a small book case has something to offer…maybe your new tome.
Answer someone else’s prayer, qietly let them know that someone cares when they may in doubt.